Become a Prov 31 Woman

What can I say... none of us is perfect!
But we can try to be better.

There has always been a passion in me to be a good wife... and to see other women be good wives.

So I was thinking about the young women.... you know, there is so much talk about the "boyfriend material" "girlfriend material"..... but you know, how bout being WIFE material... or HUSBAND material.... what about THAT?????????

I think its important that as we're growing up and learning, we think of the future, not just about the right now. When we have a kingdom mindset that is for ETERNITY, the Now is kinda... just that... now... and we strive for improvement and so much more.

So, my question is.... what IS WIFE MATERIAL?????

SO, I went to the only place I know I can always find the right answers .... The Internet!!! .... LOL., just kidding, I went to the Bible!!!!

It says in Prov 31:10

Epilogue: The Wife of Noble Character
10.A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies.
- Notice it doesn't say a "girlfriend"... we're thinking long term here!

11. Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value.
- She is trustworthy!

12.She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.
- THIS one is always a shocker to me, cause it made me realize, we do our husband good and not evil ALL the days of our lives! Meaning even before we get married, we do what is best for them! Like not tempting them to sin, like encouraging them to get closer to GOD... etc.... EVEN before we meet them, before we know whoh they are, we keep ourselves.... we don't wanna give our husband "second best" we give them THE best!!! We don't wanna give our husbands "what's left of our hearts" we wanna give them our WHOLE hearts, not just what's left!
So we need to guard our hearts so that by the time we get married, our hearts are whole and intact.


13. She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands.
14. She is like the merchant ships, bringing her food from afar.
15. She gets up while it is still dark; she provides food for her family and portions for her servant girls. 16. She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard. 17. She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks. 18. She sees that her trading is profitable, and her lamp does not go out at night.
- Wow... she is Hardcore! She works and works and works... but always for the benefit of everyone else... she seems to put her family AND maidservants first..... she cares! She's a caring, hardworking woman!


19. In her hand she holds the distaff and grasps the spindle with her fingers. 20. She opens her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy.
- She is Generous!!!!

21. When it snows, she has no fear for her household; for all of them are clothed in scarlet.
- She doesn't worry because she's prepared! (this is in the physical and in the spiritual... she's prepared!)

22. She makes coverings for her bed; she is clothed in fine linen and purple. 23. Her husband is respected at the city gate, where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.
- Her husband is respected, meaning she doesn't shame him. There is a respect and honor that comes from having a good wife. We bless our husbands by honoring them.

24. She makes linen garments and sells them, and supplies the merchants with sashes.
-She is smart!! She has business skills, she is thinking about their future and is preparing for it!

25. She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come. 26. She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue. 27. She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness.
-WOW.... she is a mighty woman! Not only can she LAUGH at the days to come... she enjoys herself.... She also watches what comes out of her mouth and LEADS BY EXAMPLE! She watches that she doesn't' gossip or waste her time with mindless talking!
-What is DIGNITY???.... "bearing, conduct, or speech indicative of SELF-RESPECT"..... So many young people now a days, lack self respect! but by the grace of God we can all be clothed in dignity!

28. Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: 29. "Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all."
- How awesome, that her children bless her, and her husband praises her! So much so, that she "surpasses them all"

30. Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.
- All I gotta say... is AMEN!

31. Give her the reward she has earned, and let her own works bring her praise at the city gate.
- WOULD YOUR WAYS AND YOUR WORKS bring you praise or shame???
Think about it!


You can be this woman... one is called blessed, one who honors her husband even before she meets him! One who plans for the future and is not stuck on the now... One who prepares in the Spirit!
The man who marries such a woman is blessed!

Girls, don't settle for less..... you can be MORE! You can be a virtuous wife!